Why bother ?

Why bother? …. these are the words of a young person living in a children’s home where I worked. I wore a sliver necklace in those early days, the pendent was a question mark, she said it summed up her life. I named this place ‘Why Bother Land” a place where children go when they have no hope and see no future.

To lead children to a better place the care giver needs to know the way.

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Dear Child of the State

Unknown Child of the State
Hopeless House,
17 Unheard Place,
Why Bother Land.

Yesterday

Dear Unknown Child,

Your story is very worrying, but please don’t run away before you hear, what I have to say.

You were right to speak out about that worker, who left you on your own, then told you he’d been drinking… before he drove you home.

We know you’re not the liar here but every time you move, as long as reputation matter’s more than you… that will become harder to prove.

I know how sad it makes you to know he’s coming back, but getting mad will only
reinforce… it’s you not him that’s bad.

To accept that justice won’t be served no doubt will cause alarm, especially as another move… will only cause you harm.

But you must hang on to your potential, protect it with your life, then the day will come when you can tell them all… “I survived.”

Together,

The Caregiver x

Together

Care Givers Count

A cynic I don’t want to be but how can I conceive
to speak out was my duty
but I was not believed

By those mean’t to protect truth
who failed to raise alarm about
those who stole your youth

So, come on care leavers and care givers too
Our collective voice will reveal
how care should be…

And, together we can influence why
it should not cause more trauma
for you or me…

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Together

A cynic I don’t want to be but how can I conceive
to speak out was my duty
but I was not believed

By those mean’t to protect the truth
who failed to raise alarm
about those who stole your youth

So, come on care leavers and care givers too
Our collective voice will reveal
how care should be…

And, together we can influence why
it should not cause more trauma
for you or me…

The ‘prove it’ game

The prove it game has taken toll on me
I tried to make them hear the truth
They just didn’t want to see
That hidden in the archives
Are wrongs to be set free

And, I’ve learned there can be no doubt
From evidence retained
Whilst silence commands a higher price
To those who failed to act
Truth will remain contained

The Brightness of Stars by Lisa Cherry

Orphans & Care Experience in Fiction

Lisa Cherry starts the journey of her life with a quote from Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven (2003):

All parents damage their children. It cannot be helped. Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of the handler. Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces beyond repair.

A sort of Philip Larkin for the neglected child. But a fitting quote that begins Lisa’s own fucked-up-ness childhood into care leaver story.

Lisa had a ‘burning desire’ to write a book and began her writing journey through blogging, something she loved to do. Something that became part of a cathartic healing process.

For a long time I have felt that I had many stories to tell: stories that would heal the wounds left over from years of therapeutic intervention, 12 step programmes and self help books galore.

Once started on…

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